Rekindle The Fire
Get Your Chemistry Back
Most relationships start out in a way that its like there’s fireworks everytime the two people are together. Both of you just cant get enough of each other, you enjoy the times you spend together and cant wait to do it again. There is some kind of chemistry developing between the two of you that just seems to bind and fuse the two of you together the more you spend more time with each other. Sparks just seem to fly when you get together and more and more people tend to notice the chemistry between the two of you.
Everybody tends to say that two people have chemistry when they are fit for each other. Its more than just a cliché since chemistry can’t really be described, its just the way two people seem to click. You know you have chemistry with another person when your knees start shaking everytime you are near her, you begin to stammer, your stomach feels like a haven for butterflies and you get all sweaty all the time.
Chemistry could be another word for love but in some cases, the chemistry might be gone but love could still be present. That’s why some people would like to rekindle the fire in their relationship because they still love the person and would like to make the relationship better; like that way it used to be when they fell in love with one another.
Chemistry can either be through physical and emotional. Physical chemistry deals with the way we are attracted to our partner on the physical level. In some relationships, the partners tend to be so relaxed and comfortable with their relationship that they have a tendency to let go of their physical looks. When this happens, one partner may lose their physical attraction and their physical chemistry as well.
Some cases have shown that physical chemistry may also be about the great sex they have, and when this type of physical chemistry is forgotten and the sex becomes too regular and boring, the physical chemistry may be lost. Loss of attention to the physical attributes and to the physical contact is what causes these problems, try to get yourself back in shape and try to look good for your partner, this will show that you don’t take your partner for granted and you still want to look good for them.
With emotional chemistry, this could be because we have grown tired with our partner because of the routine becoming too boring. Refresh your emotional chemistry for each other by taking in a new perspective about each other. Take vacations, act out your fantasies, be open to one another and find a solution on how to bring the sparks back to each other. Try to discover what the both of you want out of the relationship and build on that. Be open to new ideas and never contradict.
But in your day to day life, are you tired of dead-end date nights? Is your sweetheart’s idea of an exciting Friday night date a pizza and watching satellite television? I’m not suggesting spending time at home alone together can’t be romantic. But, come on; let’s be honest. I doubt if having remnants of tomato sauce on the corners of one’s mouth or the sound of advertisements for deodorant in the background will lead to anything but a headache and indigestion.
If you’ve been married for awhile, it’s understandable that quite a few Friday nights might be spent going to the supermarket. But, let’s start concentrating on doing something more creative to unleash the “romantic” side of your relationship. If you don’t start putting some creative romantic ideas into the relationship, it could soon end up in the recycling bin.
The rush one gets when first in love, it’s like having a triple shot of espresso. It’s like you’re always high and on top of the world. Your heart is racing everytime you’re near your partner and you develop powerful feelings that are just constantly nagging for attention, you can’t explain what it is, but it’s there. But after a certain period of time, some relationships get past the chemistry and the momentum wanes, you have gone past the “honeymoon period.” Many have strived to get their chemistry back; here are some tips on how to rekindle the fire.
From time to time, all of us need a few suggestions on how to “warm up” our love life. With the pressures of everyday life upon us, we need to reserve some special time with our sweetheart to promote good mental, physical and emotional well-being.
Do you want to surprise your sweetheart? Do you want to bring back those great Friday night dates you once had when you first met? Try writing a note designating the coming Friday as your “date” night. Leave it in their car before they go to work in the morning. In the note you tell them you have “reserved” this night to have dinner out in a nice restaurant (no take out). Cancellations are not allowed; no movies, no television. Drive somewhere safe and quiet (of course, this could be hard depending where you live) but make an attempt anyway.
Just park the car and start holding hands. Try cuddling and start talking softly to each about intimate things. Don’t talk about work, the kids (if you have them) and all the other typical problems you share each and every day. Forget everything for the moment and go back to the time when you had your first date together, without the anxiety of course. Then, let “romance” take its course. Well, where it leads can certainly heat up any dwindling flame. Do it for your sweetheart. They’ll thank you for it many, many times!
Too Late to Rekindle the Fire
I waited all day for your beautiful eyes to appear
On that beautiful face of that beautiful spirit
Through that old wooden door.
I had no idea you were tired of the old rooms
The old shows, the old clothes,
Or the way things were.
If I had known of your discontent
I would I have jumped through fire
I would have flown through clouds,
I would have made sure you knew
That you were everything to me.
How I wish I still had you.
© Heather Burns, 2015