How to Make A Romantic Relationship Work
How To Make A Relationship Last
Falling in love and entering in a romantic relationship with the love of your life is a really nice experience. But just like in any endeavor, a romantic relationship also has its ups and downs.
Some of the major factors that affect the survival of a relationship are : Selection Of Partner – Sometimes, our selection of partner may be wrong. We may have nothing in common and our values and goals may be very different. With bad selection from the beginning, no relationship can survive for long. One of the main reasons of wrong partner selection may be hurry in selection of partner and inattention to the true nature of the selected partner. But let’s just say you are okay with your selection, or you were when your relationship started. Then how do you make the relationship last?
There are times that you and your partner will experience problems and conflicts that will sure test the strength of your relationship. However, sometimes, if these conflicts seem to go on in circles, the last resort you have in mind is to end the relationship which should not be the case since there are lots of things that you can do to make your romantic relationship work.
First, you should never expect a perfect relationship because there is no such thing. Unrealistic expectations in a relationship is a major cause of breakups. We expect that after we fall in to a relationship, we will become happy, satisfied and feel good at all the times. That does not happen. This creates frustration and leads to blaming in the relationship. There will always come a time that you and your partner will experience conflicts that will surely test the strength of your relationship. How you handle these problems will determine how intense your feelings you have for each other and how important your partner is to you. It is not a good idea to end the relationship just because you see the first signs of trouble. There are always measures that you can do in order to surpass any test and make the romantic relationship work.
Second, you have to be honest and loyal at all times. If you want your partner to trust you, you should be honest in every way. This does not mean however that you are obliged to tell every detail of what you do during the day. This is just a matter of saying the truthful answers when your partner asks you questions because making up stories or telling lies will not do any good in the relationship. This will just arouse more suspicions and jealousy and thus, bigger conflicts will arise. Aside from this, both partners should be loyal to each other. A romantic relationship is a commitment and so it requires loyalty on both sides.
Third, you should always communicate with your partner because this is one of the keys to a successful romantic relationship. Often times, misunder- standing occurs in romantic relationships because couples are unable to communicate with one another. Bad communication is the major factor in break ups. Partners are unable to tell their true feelings to each other for many reasons including fear of conflict. Sometimes, there is non-verbal communication made which sends the wrong message. You should always find time to talk about issues especially when it is about problems that try to test your relationship. By doing this, both of you will be able to figure out what is really happening to your relationship, why it is happening, and what you can do to resolve the problem. And when communicating, you should know when it’s time to listen and when it’s time to speak because if both want to speak at the same time, how can you possibly understand each other.
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And lastly, you have to keep in mind that in order for a romantic relationship to work, both partners should exert an effort to make it work. When you entered in the relationship, you have committed yourself to someone so this means that you can’t always have your way. In a relationship, there should be give and take in every situation. This is important in order to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.
All these measures can contribute a lot to the success of your romantic relationship. But aside from all these, both should also exert some effort to keep the romance alive by doing simple yet sweet things. This will sure help a lot to keep the relationship from being so monotonous.
Some people say sustaining relationships can be difficult. That they give joy, but demand lot of effort. And it’s true that a relationship is not a solution to all our life problems. Sometimes it creates its own problems. For a relationship that lasts, we have to take care of all the aspects of the relationship. But on the other hand, it shouldn’t be too difficult. Relationships should be joy sustaining and easy. If it’s too difficult and you feel no joy any more, ask yourself if you have put in the effort to make it work. If you have, and it’s still difficult, it may be time to end it and move on. Life is too short to stay in one that hurts all the time. However if you feel you have not done all that you can do, it is possible to turn things around sometimes. Be honest with yourself. Also ask yourself if your partner is also trying to do the positive things to help. If not, and they don’t seem to want to, again it may be time to move on. People live longer now. There’s still time to find a new partner. It’s better to be alone and have some hope of finding a new love than it is to live in pure hell. Trust me, I’ve been there. And now my relationship is easy. Hold out for that. It’s much easier to make a relationship last when it’s easy to begin with.